Wiki says: A southern belle (derived from the French word belle, ‘beautiful’) is an archetype for a young woman of the AmericanOld South’s upper class.
Well maybe the definition of a Southern Belle is a little archaic and superficial, but I plan to become more intimately acquainted with those states who once made up a Confederacy.
For better or worse, Michigan has always been my home. Although I often detested and felt limited by the small town I was raised in, heading back to MI from college, Chicago, and then NYC was always a trip that I looked forward to. There’s a feeling of calm when you’re heading back to a world so recognizable – knowing every street, where the creaky floor board is, how to sneakily turn up the heat on the pool just enough that your dad won’t notice, and being able to walk to the bathroom in the dark without tripping and no fumbling for lightswitches, since hell, you’ve been in the same house you entire life (well, except for the first eight months but who’s counting).
Well as of last week, the life I knew has changed by… 692.77 miles and an 11 hour drive (Mapquest).
That’s right, folks, my parents, Northerner’s born and bred, have relocated to Tunica, Mississippi! You may be familiar with the city (no judgments here) because it is the third most popular gambling destination in the United States, behind Vegas and Atlantic City! My Dad is not a professional poker player and I doubt my mom will ever wear the costume of a cocktail waitress, but they will live a mere ten minutes from the lights of the casinos.
My mom and I road-tripped down to Tunica last week for the final move – the two of us, Skippy the dog, and a load of my mom’s favorite plants (the “greenhouse” had much more room than poor Skippy and I who had to share the front seat!). Tunica is a very cute little town overflowing with nice, friendly southerners. I got my hair done (note to self: always get hair done in South; much better pricing than NYC extravagance!) and in that two hours, was given a brief lesson in Southern etiquette and history.
But I need to know more. The South truly is a different world. Not only do people have accents (which is #1 on my Southern Belle list – I hope to pick mine up over the Christmas holidays) but a different history than what I grew up with. So while I’m searching for all the light switches in our new house next time I visit (when I left after my stay, there were outdoor lights on that we had no idea how they came on, or how to turn off!), I plan to be educating myself on the life from my perch in NYC.
My Southern Book List:
- THE HELP by Kathryn Stockett (obviously I’ve already read this – who hasn’t – but it’s imperative I reread, which will be better understood in my review)
- CROOKED LETTER, CROOKED LETTER by Tom Franklin
- LOOKING FOR SALVATION AT THE DAIRY QUEEN by Susan Gregg Gilmore
- HUNK CITY and MODERN BAPTISTS by James Wilcox
- GONE WITH THE WIND by Margaret Mitchell (my FAVORITE book – and I’ve been needing a reason to reread this classic tome! I did just purchase as an ereader, because my collector’s leather bound edition (Thanks OAD & OUB!) is both heavy and delicate
- INCIDENTS IN THE LIFE OF A SLAVE GIRL by Harriet Jacobs
- SAVING CEECEE HONEYCUTT by Beth Hoffman (I’ve already read, enjoyed and reviewed this recently released debut novel, but feel it’s very relevant to this list as CeeCee made her way South from Ohio)
- REASONS FOR AND ADVANTAGES OF BREATHING by Lydia Peelle (thanks to Beth Fish Reads for her review of this Southern-based collection of short stories)
- PLANTING DANDELIONS: Field Notes from a Semi-Domesticated Life by Kyran Pittman (This upcoming Summer 2011 release from Riverhead Books promises to be funny and insightful from a Canadian perspective in Arkansas – I suggest following @KyranPittman on Twitter!)
I wouldn’t even know where to begin to make this a Southern Belle Challenge, but I would love to hear if anyone wanted to dive in to the deep south with me! Also, I’m sure I’m missing valuable southern literature so please y’all, feel free to make suggestions.




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October 22, 2010 at 8:25 am
bermudaonion
You left out To Kill a Mockingbird! You should check out SIBA’s Okra Picks for more suggestions. We live in South Carolina and a lot of people retire here from the north and midwest. Good luck with the light switches.
October 22, 2010 at 4:04 pm
novelwhore
oh my gosh (golly? is that Southern?) TO KILL A MOCKINGBIRD is the most obvious of all and is always worth a reread – thanks for the reminder!
October 22, 2010 at 10:38 am
Julie P.
Kathy’s right — the SIBA list is great. Susan also has a new Southern novel out called THE IMPROPER LIFE OF BEZELIA GROVE.
October 22, 2010 at 4:05 pm
novelwhore
SIBA it is. Are you a Gimore fan? What book do you suggest I read first? Think you deserve some light southern reading too after the Armenian Genocide!
October 22, 2010 at 10:59 am
Rachel Austin
I’d also recommend reading some Southern Living cookbooks because so much about of the Southern culture is food. I’m from Texas, and I feel like all I ever talk about is food.
October 22, 2010 at 4:08 pm
novelwhore
Ohhh that’s a great suggestion. I really could use some cooking skills before becoming a southern belle… A very nice Junior League member (right out of THE HELP?!) had sent me their Memphis cookbook – I think I’ll start there. Hopefully I don’t burn my apartment down – I’ll let you know! Does Texas offer the lunch platter of Mississippi: Fried catfish, hush puppies (fried), french fries (same) and coleslaw for health?!
October 22, 2010 at 11:31 am
Kari
I will ALWAYS dive into the deep South! As a Southern transplant to the North, I miss the y’alls and magnolia trees and porch swings!
October 22, 2010 at 4:09 pm
novelwhore
Where are you from?! Have you lost your y’alls from being in NYC so long?! Thanks for the vision of a porch swing and magnolias…
October 23, 2010 at 8:15 am
Lisa Munley
A former Michigander here (California transplant). How about The Secret Life of Bees? Or The Divine Secrets of the Ya Ya Sisterhood? Or My Delicious Life with Paula Deen by her husband (what’s his name)?
October 29, 2010 at 6:54 am
novelwhore
Ohhh I’ve read SECRET LIFE OF BEES and DIVINE SECRETS, but always worth a reread! Lisa, you need to come down to MS and try Paula Deen’s buffet in the Harrah – it’s incredible!
October 24, 2010 at 11:20 am
marilynbrant
Loved hearing about your journey to your family’s new home!! I’ll second Lisa’s mention of Divine Secrets and add short stories by Flannery O’Connor.
p.s. GREAT pix of your mom and dad in their new environment (with Skippy, of course!)
October 29, 2010 at 6:54 am
novelwhore
Thanks Marilyn! I was hoping they would move to Chicago, but Mississippi is nice too – and the winter is far less brutal!
October 24, 2010 at 1:05 pm
softdrink
Eudora Welty! I’ve only read one of her books (The Optimist’s Daughter), but she does small town in the South very well.
October 29, 2010 at 6:55 am
novelwhore
Ohhh GREAT suggestion. Do you love her name too? “Eudora Welty” has a nice cadence to it. And Tunica is definitely a “small Southern town” so it should be perfect!
October 25, 2010 at 6:55 pm
The Girl from the Ghetto
Ooooh, I love the south, just not the heat. Being a Michigan girl myself, I can only imagine what a culture shock your parents must be going though.
Um, I am horrified to have to admit that I’ve never read “Gone With The Wind.”
Lisa M.-I didn’t know you were for Michigan. Or, if I once knew, I have totally forgotten. I’m with you on the Ya-Ya books, love them!
October 29, 2010 at 6:56 am
novelwhore
I love the heat, just not the humidity! But we had that in MI too so I’ll be welcoming a warm Christmas.. though actually, maybe it will be weird without snow.
You have to read GONE WITH THE WIND, Girl, seriously it’s amazing!!!!!!
October 28, 2010 at 6:39 am
S. Krishna
My parents relocated from Oklahoma to Florida few years ago, and it was a similar shock!
October 29, 2010 at 6:57 am
novelwhore
I didn’t realize you were from OK! I was secretly hoping Mississippi would have a palm tree or two like FL, but alas, there are none.
October 28, 2010 at 12:59 pm
bethfishreads
The Okra Picks list looks great! Thanks for the shout-out, too!
What a huge move!!! Wow! But good for your parents to try something new.
November 2, 2010 at 7:47 am
Jana J. Hanson
I must recommend Absalom, Absalom! by William Faulkner (Mississippi is his home state!) and Fair and Tender Ladies by Lee Smith.
November 2, 2010 at 7:40 pm
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November 9, 2010 at 7:45 pm
scholarslip
I can’t wait to be down there with you over Thanksgiving – annual cider and rums, coming up!